I was jealous
I never thought I’d date someone who had such an unconventional career. I’m crazy into him but at the same time when we’re together I can’t help but wonder about the other guys in his day! #yourstories #jealousy
Jealousy was always there. Kissing him, I’d think, “Is that his cologne, or a bit of someone else’s?”. Did I miss that bruise on his arm yesterday? With every new mark on his skin my head swirled with stories that I wasn’t part of. It was so hard.
We talked about it
I’m lucky that he reads people like a book. Always seems to know what’s happening. He brought it up gently last week and we agreed to talk about it. When he opened up about what he does, it wasn’t what I expected.
People think being an escort is just about the obvious physical things, but he told me about what he does for his clients emotionally –supporting them, letting them explore things they were afraid of, maybe being the only one who really listens to them.
How do you date with someone that sleeps with others?
I started getting this other feeling. Knowing that he was helping others, that he could make them happy in ways most couldn’t, actually gave me a kind of thrill. It was like being happy for his happiness, even when it wasn’t just about us. I felt proud of him.
Being okay with his job means understanding him deeply, and my own insecurities too. Can dating someone who sleeps with other people bring out vulnerability and connection that’s just next level or is it a recipe for eventual disaster?
Are you at a crossroads of your own story, the unwritten chapters ahead daunting and exciting? Text me (+31630896670) or DM me to talk or if you want to anonymously share your adventures! #yourstories
